Understanding children’s behavior post divorce

Nowadays divorce has become part of life and in most schools many children realise that they are not the only ones whose parents are divorced but does this mean that children have adapted well to divorce? Children are interesting and parents forget that they too were children.  This means to say that being secretive and confiding in friends rather then parents is the norm for children.  If your child is not talking to you about the issue of divorce it does not mean that it is not impacting on their psyche in some way.  It is important to ask teachers about your children’s behaviour at school, maybe observe how they respond to friends or the opposite sex. Parents not only have to monitor their children’s behaviour but their own behaviour as well. This means that some parents can accept the fact that they no longer have a partner and therefore continue to live their lives as they always have by keeping their routine and healthy habits in check or they can become resentful and start acting out. This means that some parents try and relive the time before they were married ...

What you should know about child custody battles

Child custody battles is a process in which a judge decides who gains custody of children, during a divorce. Often when a couple decides to divorce, children are involved if the parents are not communicating with each other, a judge decides who will gain custody. Child custody battles involve minor children; they are under 18 years of age therefore, they cannot decide on their own. Divorce is a painful process to endure, and when a couple is involved in a divorce, children most often are torn between both parents. The battle is often about both parents wanting to gain full custody of the children.  Usually, mothers are given custody of children, as they are considered to be the best care givers.  But, it seems that it is no longer the case the court decides what is best for children involved during a custody battle. A person affiliated with the court, or a social worker, spends time with both parents. An evaluation of parents takes place, to determine who is the most suitable and responsible parent.  The judge will decide if the child should stay with one parent, a family member, or ...

The effects of divorce on Teenage children

Statistically, divorce rates are escalating, couples around the world are resorting to divorce as a solution to their problems.  Children are often caught in between and each age group is affected differently, in this case, how does divorce affect teenagers? Teenagers are at a difficult age, where they are transforming from children into adults. It is a difficult transition to endure; hormones, social pressure and friends have a great influence on their development.  It is challenging to confront teenagers, during such a tremendous shift in their lives. Often teenagers turn inwardly, or they confide in friends. The relationship between a teenager and a parent is affected by adolescence.  Teenagers feel that they cannot express themselves to their parents.  Their judgement of their parents is heightened by this transition, and conflict often occurs.  It is an important part of a teenager’s life, to be conscious of events that unfold, as it has a tremendous impact on their adulthood. Teenagers are trying to establish, where they belong. They contemplate about their future, and often it involves being the complete opposite of their parents. Teenagers are judgmental, critical and exceptionally vulnerable to outside influence. When ...