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Understanding children’s behavior post divorce

October 25, 2011  |   Divorce advice,Post divorce   |     |   0 Comment

Understanding children’s behavior post divorce

Nowadays divorce has become part of life and in most schools many children realise that they are not the only ones whose parents are divorced but does this mean that children have adapted well to divorce? Children are interesting and parents forget that they too were children.  This means to say that being secretive and confiding in friends rather then parents is the norm for children.  If your child is not talking to you about the issue of divorce it does not mean that it is not impacting on their psyche in some way.  It is important to ask teachers about your children’s behaviour at school, maybe observe how they respond to friends or the opposite sex. Parents not only have to monitor their children’s behaviour but their own behaviour as well. This means that some parents can accept the fact that they no longer have a partner and therefore continue to live their lives as they always have by keeping their routine and healthy habits in check or they can become resentful and start acting out. This means that some parents try and relive the time before they were married ...

The effects of divorce on Teenage children

September 26, 2011  |   Divorce,Divorce advice,Post divorce   |     |   0 Comment

The effects of divorce on Teenage children

Statistically, divorce rates are escalating, couples around the world are resorting to divorce as a solution to their problems.  Children are often caught in between and each age group is affected differently, in this case, how does divorce affect teenagers? Teenagers are at a difficult age, where they are transforming from children into adults. It is a difficult transition to endure; hormones, social pressure and friends have a great influence on their development.  It is challenging to confront teenagers, during such a tremendous shift in their lives. Often teenagers turn inwardly, or they confide in friends. The relationship between a teenager and a parent is affected by adolescence.  Teenagers feel that they cannot express themselves to their parents.  Their judgement of their parents is heightened by this transition, and conflict often occurs.  It is an important part of a teenager’s life, to be conscious of events that unfold, as it has a tremendous impact on their adulthood. Teenagers are trying to establish, where they belong. They contemplate about their future, and often it involves being the complete opposite of their parents. Teenagers are judgmental, critical and exceptionally vulnerable to outside influence. When ...

Parenting after divorce

October 04, 2010  |   Divorce advice,Post divorce   |     |   0 Comment

Parenting after divorce

In any divorce where there are children involved the emphasis should always be on "the best interests of the children" so why is it then that so many couples going through a divorce become so involved in the process and the financial aspects that they forget all about the children and convince themselves that by getting as much money from the spouse or giving as little as possible is what is really required. The simple fact is that you have not dealt with the hurt, dissapointment, feelings of loss or any number of other issues that become your reality in a time of divorce. You really need to focus on one of two things, firstly examining whether or not there is any possibility of a reconcilliation without involving your children and secondly that the children do not have a negative experience of your divorce. There is a lot of reading material available to help guide you through the various stages of divorce and what one can expect to experience with your children. Forewarned is forearmed. We recommend that you read at least one or two of these books to prepare you for your divorce so that the divorce has the least negative impact ...