Parenting after divorce

In any divorce where there are children involved the emphasis should always be on “the best interests of the children” so why is it then that so many couples going through a divorce become so involved in the process and the financial aspects that they forget all about the children and convince themselves that by getting as much money from the spouse or giving as little as possible is what is really required.

The simple fact is that you have not dealt with the hurt, dissapointment, feelings of loss or any number of other issues that become your reality in a time of divorce. You really need to focus on one of two things, firstly examining whether or not there is any possibility of a reconcilliation without involving your children and secondly that the children do not have a negative experience of your divorce.

There is a lot of reading material available to help guide you through the various stages of divorce and what one can expect to experience with your children. Forewarned is forearmed.

We recommend that you read at least one or two of these books to prepare you for your divorce so that the divorce has the least negative impact on you and your children. Remember, we create our own relities and these can be either negative or positive.

helping kids cope with divorceHelping your kids cope with divorce the sandcastles way.

Gary Neuman nourishes parents with guiding ways to help children through the complicated times that lie ahead for them. Every adult in the family needs to be aware of what the children will experience, so if you are a parent, a grand parent or close cousin, your desire to help the children through these difficult times can be made a lot easier with the knowledge you will recieve from this book. It’s sympathetic, practical and loving; it covers all the problems faced by children of divorce; and it gives an excellent rundown of the reactions you can expect, age by age.

Adjusting the boundaries, helping kids and teens cope with divorce.

kids and divorceThe author will empower you to contain your children’s anxiety and feelings of insecurity and to re-establish a measure of equilibrium as effectively as possible.

Using loads of case studies from her extensive files, Anne highlights the following: How, when and where to inform your children in an age-appropriate and honest way; Emotional support for you, the parent; Guidance on effective parenting skills to help your children; The how to of active listening, anger management and clear, firm and consistent boundary setting – all with practical examples

Die skrywer, ‘n raadgewer, bemagtig jou danksy jare se praktiese ervaring om jou kinders se angstigheid en gevoelens van onsekerheid te beperk en so doeltreffend moontlik die ewewig in jou gesin te hervestig.

Sy gee praktiese riglyne oor die volgende aan die hand van talle gevallestudies uit haar omvangryke leers: Hoe, wanneer en waar om jou kinders op ‘n ouderdomsgepaste en eerlike manier in te lig.

Luister na you kinders!

Spiritual Divorce

Could the end of your marriage be the first step toward reclaiming your personal power and joyfully living the life of your dreams? If the answer is yes, this book is for you.

Divorce rocks the very foundation of our beings, leaving us feeling lonely, flawed, enraged, undesirable, hopeless, and empty. In Spiritual Divorce, New York Times bestselling author Debbie Ford reveals how this devastation can be transformed into a profoundly enlightening experience.

For more recommended reading and to help you navigate divorce and the emotions of children, take a look at our recommended reading section for divorced or divorcing couples.